expectations
we're all expectation-people. we expect a certain level of standard from people and a higher standard from close friends and spouses.
sometimes arguments occur because we expect too much and thus misunderstand each other. usually when you know that your friends are of that level, you would never expect him/her to fall below the target.
but there are several things that i've learnt about managing our expectation level.
the more we expect, the harder we fall. when we expect high hopes and dreams, we tend to feel that the reality is not up to standard. thus causing disappointments.
but that doesn't mean that we don't expect anything!!
Jesus must have knew that Simon Peter would be the rock that He builds His church upon. thus He could have set high standards for Simon Peter. but Simon Peter failed Him so often, even rejecting Him 3 times.
Jesus knew about the END RESULTS. He knew that He had to die, so that the Holy Spirit can be poured out on all flesh. He knew that He had to be gone, so that Someone else can come.
if the future seems hazy, do we still continue building sandcastles in the air? its time to plan and do something about it!!
sometimes we hope that things would turn out differently. well, doesn't it bring out the creativity of God and how flexible God is? since He's so creative and flexible, why can't we all be creative and flexible too? be quick to adjust to changes, to make decisions and to reorganise thoughts.
and when things are seriously bad, do we still make big plans? plan small and careful steps that ensure victory!!
expectations of something / someone can make differences.
updates!
just thought of sharing about moving on in this entry.
many of us are being hindered from reaching their maximum potential by life. why? because they are unable to let go and move on with their life.
they choose to hang onto the problem, never letting it go and thinking that times would change.
yes! just actions may result in changes, but would the person continue to make a difference in your life or would that person end up hindering your walk with God?
true friends are people that flow in thoughts with you, and understands what you are going through even when there is no verbal communication. how many true friends we have in a lifetime?
does that make me sound like i'm a heartless creep? no! i do not forsake my friends when they need help. but when the friendship is on the rocks, what matters the most is the effort put in to restore the friendship.
Jesus came to this earth and died on the cross for us. He made that effort to restore that relationship between man and God. the 12 disciples, being filled with the Holy Spirit, went about preaching the gospel and thats how the Church started.
do you notice that its a two way situation? Jesus came down, died and the 12 disciples preached. there were actions involved! the 12 disciples could have kept quiet and refused to preach the gospel, but because they experienced the power of God through Jesus Christ's ministry on earth, they went about sharing about the power of God.
likewise in friendship. if a friendship is being damaged, we do all kinds of things possible to restore the friendship. one person can do all he wants to restore the friendship and though the problem may seem solved, the actions of the other may not justify it.
it takes two hands to clap!
if you're serious about the friendship, do something to show that you treasure the friendship!!
friendship is basically built on trust. if the trust is not there, its always hard to digest things mentioned. why would the trust be broken? through many ways!
ways like being insensitive, sudden change of focus and the worst of all, mentioning of secrets to someone else.
i may not know what's happening behind my back, but i got the Holy Spirit to help me! sometimes i tend to over react and think too much, but that doesn't mean that i stop using the Holy Spirit! He's the greatest Helper i can ever find and He prompts me whenever something seem to be happening.
just that i need to fine tune the sensitivity of the voice of the Holy Spirit=P
anyway, in situations when you feel like its a dead end and there's no where else to go, thats when you have to decide to move on or to hang on.
a mature man / women of God makes decisions, not leave things lying around. sometimes its painful to let go, but lets not be like the little girl that refuses to let go of her plastic pearls when she could have gotten real pearls on her birthday.
life's wonderful!
when you think that everything is going down hill, God intervenes and makes Himself felt.
God's really great! i've been SOOO blessed recently and even in ministry, i'm getting "promoted" from elite 3 to elite 2 and for service 6 last sunday, ELITE 1!! well, because bro james, kaikeong had stuffs to do in service 6, so they left us and bro mike assigned me as elite 1 =)
it was a great experience as elite 1, totally different from normal services. thank God nothing much happened and i didn't experience much difficulties.
i haven been updating much because everyday of my life has been quite the same. waking up at 7am, school, dinner then home. it has become a boring routine, but at least there's table tennis to play in class. heh=P
services 2, 3, 4, 5 and 6 were fantastic! received revelations, wisdom and understanding of several stuffs and i feel that i'm already starting to change! ahahz=P the messages from Pastor Carl and Pastor Robert changed my thinking and my faith in God went a notch higher.
how do i know that? the devil's attacking me everyday, playing mindgames with me, that causes me to think negative thoughts and fear. thank God for a great God! as i put my faith and trust in Him, He will take care of the rest, which means He ensure that everything else fine!! i'll just have to focus and trust in Him!
we serve a great God!! hallelujah!
Lifehouse - Breathing
I'm finding my way back to sanity again
Though I don't really know what i'm gonna do when i get there
I take a breath and hold on tight
Spin around one more time
And gracefully fall back to the arms of grace
Cause I am hanging on every word you're saying
Even if you don't wanna speak tonight
That's alright, alright with me
Cause I want nothing more than to sit outside heaven's door
And listen to you breathing
Its where i wanna be, yeah
Where I wanna be
I'm looking past the shadows in my mind into the truth
And i'm trying to identify the voices in my head
God wish won't you
Let me feel one more time what if feels like to feel
And break these caluses off me one more time
Cause I am hanging on every word you're saying
Even if you don't wanna speak tonight
That's alright, alright with me
Cause I want nothing more than to sit outside of your door
And listen to you breathing
Its where I wanna be, yeah
Oh i don't want a thing from you
Bet you're tired of me waiting for
The scraps to fall off of your table to the ground
La da da da...
Cause i just wanna be here now
Cause I am hanging on every word you're saying
Even if you don't wanna speak tonight
That's alright, alright with me
Cause I want nothing more than to sit outside heaven's door
And listen to you breathing
Its where i wanna be, yeah
Where I wanna be
Cause I am hanging on every word you're saying
Even if you don't wanna speak tonight
That's alright, alright with me
Cause I want nothing more than to sit outside heaven's door
And listen to you breathing
Its where i wanna be, yeah
Where I wanna be
